I guess that’s my theme for the week. “It Is What It Is.” It’s something I need to learn. You can think about all the “what ifs” in the world, but it won’t change anything. Some things you are never meant to understand. Some things, no matter what you did differently might still have had the same outcome. “It Is What It Is” is all about embracing the concept that we can’t change things. Sometimes it just is what it is.
Today marks one month since we lost Rachel. It’s still hard, but each day gets a little easier. My mom and I talk about Rachel, and she talks about all the fun adventures they had, and how she misses talking to her each day. There’s so many questions about what happened and why it had to happen. What if one thing had been different? Could we have done something? Again, it’s the “what ifs”, and I know you can’t live like that. You can wonder, you can question, but ultimately it doesn’t change anything. Instead I need to find comfort in what my mom and Rachel did have. They had a wonderful friendship that only comes around once in a blue moon. They were, as they referred to themselves, “Two Peas In A Pod.” They lived a lifetime in six years. And although I wish they had more time together, and my mom wishes the same thing, there’s nothing we can do to change it. We just have to be grateful for what time they did have together.
The past month has been rough, but I’m definitely heading in the right direction and so far October has been an amazing month! You really need to step back and see what you have to appreciate it. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in this past month it’s that life is so fragile. Life is so short. Tomorrow is not promised to you or anyone. So you have to make each day count. You need to appreciate the time you have on the earth.
I’ve taken so many small steps just within the past month towards being a healthier, happier me. I’ve needed to face things that I didn’t want to face. Each day I continue to learn and grow. “It Is What It Is.” Sometimes we just need to accept what is outside of our control. We need to let go. That doesn’t mean we don’t care. It is just a positive way of relinquishing control and saying that maybe it’s in the hands of God.
It’s another way to be mindful; to be present. You need to make the Mindful Unique Decision to realize that a lot of things are really outside of your control; that you can’t control every little aspect of life. It’s scary, but it’s healthy, and it’s something I am working on every single day. I don’t need to be in control 100% of the time. Sometimes, “It Is What It Is.”
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